Moment of transparency:
I’m a very private person and I was never the girl to share my business with the world. Social media was literally just that. Nothing more nothing less. However, I knew that starting Black Girls Rising would require me to be transparent and real. It is a challenge for me, but it is March 29, 2020, 5:30 AM and I know that it is nobody but God placing this on my heart to share.
How did I get here?
As I stated in my first blog, “Rise Queens, It’s Time!”, I’ve been wanting to start a business [Women’s Empowerment group] for many years but I allowed fear to hold me back.
I was fresh out of college and I decided to move back home to Broward County, FL. I was gone for about 4 ½ years and I wasn’t the same girl that left in 2012…I grew mentally and spiritually. I landed my first job and I started grad school. Things were going good but ….my surroundings. I was too comfortable and clearly, I didn’t put enough thought into my social life and how it could literally make or break you, suck you dry, ALL OF THAT!
Who you surround yourself with matters. What you talk about matters. What you do in your free time matters.
Now you may be reading this and saying, “At least you caught yourself and made changes” but this went on for about two whole years. From 2016- 2018, I literally felt like I PLAYED MYSELF. Yes, I had my Bachelor’s degree. Yes, I had a job. Yes, I graduated with my Master’s…. But those things literally meant NOTHING because I brought myself back down to a level that I elevated from years ago. I found myself engaging in meaningless conversations, unhealthy situations, procrastinating, not being fully committed to my personal goals and the GO-GETTER I know I am.
I am all for turning up but remember to PRIORITIZE & BALANCE. I was doing neither of the two.
During those two years, I was all over the place. I wanted to move to another city/state but I had no plan or no real reason other than to run away from things I needed to address within myself. Now there is nothing wrong with moving (because I still want to lol) but somethings don’t go away when you move. I wasn’t focused and very inconsistent. Moving was not the solution to my problem. [Everyone is different]. Surrounding myself with caring people that truly supports me and reflect who I want to be was my solution.
I prayed and asked God many times to reveal to me my purpose and what He has called me to do…but I would never BE STILL to hear what he was saying. I kept trying to do my own thing, but it never worked. I lost myself.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lords, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. – Jeremiah 29:11.
In 2019 I took control. It is hard to break a cycle, but when you do it feels so good and refreshing. I searched for a mentor but didn’t find anyone. After a few conversations with my mother, it was time for me to be the change I needed and wanted to see. I wanted to be surrounded by black women who are rising despite the obstacles they face. It was time to start the movement: #BlackGirlsRising. In Dec. 2019 I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t end my year the way it started. I positioned myself and got in gear for the new year.
RESET. RETHINK. REPOSITION.
I started the year 2020 off the right way and established Black Girls Rising. I face many challenges but I choose to learn, grow and rise above them. “Six months from now you can be in a completely different space, mentally, spiritually and financially. Keep working and believing in yourself.” This quote is FACTS. Stay consistent and true to yourself.
Jalezah Shoats, A Black Girl Rising
"In a world where you can be anything, be a Black Girl Rising."
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